![]() ![]() Wherever you fall, just be really honest with yourself about who you are and know that whoever you are and however you identify, you is amazing and never let anyone make you feel otherwise. Some of you may have times where you feel Dominant and at other times submissive (this is called a Switch). Some of you know and have known for a long time that you were one or the other. It’s not easy being a submissive, but it can be incredibly rewarding.īeing both a Dominant and a submissive means being uncomfortable, being vulnerable, open, honest, truthful, respectful, have a sense of humor, and a willingness to fail and grow from those failures. You have to know yourself and your needs and be able to communicate them, but also know your Dominant’s needs and be able to identify them as they arise. One of those guidelines says: “I shall never think of myself as a weak person for it takes a strong female to commit to the drive inside me, to serve, to obey and to please my Master.” I’ve always felt this was important because it takes a ton of strength and commitment to be a submissive. When she feels lost, or unhappy, or struggling to find her inner peace, she can turn to those guidelines for help. In fact, I have curated a set of guidelines for baby girl to help structure her mindset and outlook for the day. It takes an incredibly strong person to be a submissive. Be sure you are up to the task and take it seriously.Ī submissive in many ways is the one who actually holds the true power in the relationship. Whether you are a full time Dom or a play time Dom, all of these qualities hold true. It is a great deal of responsibility! You, as a Dominant, are responsible for someone’s happiness and satisfaction, for understanding their needs and making sure they are met. A Dominant is selfless and will always put the needs of their submissives before their own. A Dominant is a listener, a communicator, a care taker, a protector, a leader, an earner of trust. Being called a Dominant is a gift your submissive or submissives give you based on the care, protection, guidance, and love you show for them. Just because you call yourself a Dom does not in fact make you one. It is not an excuse to tie someone up, spank them, degrade them, or use them however you please. A Dominant, or a Dom (male) / Domme (female), is not a self-annointed title we bestow upon ourselves. Perhaps it’s easier to say what a Dominant is NOT. Both the Dominant and the submissive in the relationship are, in fact, equals. There is no leader without someone to guide. There is no power without someone to submit. Pretty straightforward, but what’s important to recognize is that you cannot have one without the other. On the one hand we have power and influence, on the other we have obedience and passivity (you brats just hold your tongue for a little while). and here, my fellow kinksters, we find our first measure of duality. Submissive, conversely, is defined as ready to conform to authority or will of others meekly obedient or passive. ![]() And I will never let it go.) tells us that Dominant by definition means: most important, powerful, or influential. Oxford English Dictionary (yes, I still own the two volume Shorter O.E.D. But first, we must start somewhere with some broad passes of the brush to start roughing out our foundation. There are varying degrees of all of this, from the Master/slave dynamics to inferiority to fetishes–more than we could possibly cover in one post. Let’s also say this: This is not a tiny world, and there is no black and white. All we can do is share our own story and what we have learned - our own truth. These professionals exist, and they’re amazing, so if you’re at all curious and want the polished advice of a pro, go do it. I, and we, am not an educator, a kink professional, a doctor, a sex therapist, or any other kind of counselor. So, class, let the lessons begin.īefore I do begin, let’s get one thing clear. That’s one of the reasons we started this business in the first place. It quickly became clear to us that the world of kink is largely unknown and misunderstood, even to those of us who are keenly interested. These sweet little lambs, or sprouting Doms, were desperate for someone to talk to and share their story. ![]() We also had brave souls come up to us and ask us for advice. We got quite a few side glances checking out the logo, some smirks, some red faces, some comments about 50 Shades of Grey, remarks about pain and spanking, ropes, etc. We were set up with our booth at the Philly tattoo convention not too long ago and a surprising number of people came up to us not only to check out the brand, but to ask us advice and share their own personal stories. Something interesting and at the same time surprising happened to us recently. ![]()
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